Thursday, September 12, 2013

Sexless Marriage - How To Stay Positive-Happy In A Sexless Marriage

By Ollie M. Buhr


Although sexless marriages may appear on be on the outside to most people unhappy and un fulfilling - for many couples living this life this is not so. These couples have learnt how to stay happy/positive in a sexless marriage by finding other ways to be intimate with each other.Most of the time it is not a subconscious decision - over time couples find that their sex life begins to decline due to varying reasons such as routine, caring for children, working long hours and lost libido. For these couples their relationship may be totally fulfilling in every other way - but there just is no or very little physical intimacy by the way of sex.
[How To Stay Positive and Happy]


Whenever you think that your mindset is getting a bit negative, think about the worst things that could happen to you and be grateful that none of it has happened yet.Having a healthy level of self-esteem is another great way of staying positive. You are not going to be a positive person if you don't value yourself. So whenever you are feeling down, think about the things that are amazing about you. For instance, you may have given a great presentation at the office meeting or you may have used your creativity recently. It may be something as simple as cooking a meal that your husband loves. You can also make a list of things that are great about you. It will be the boost you need to stay positive.

Although some couples may not experience the physical intimacy of sex - the emotional intimacy for them may be equal to or much deeper than sex. The sense of closeness and unbreakable bond that develops between a couple who have deep emotional intimacy can make a marriage with no sex not seem a problem. When a couple has a strong deep connection on an emotional level - all other problems or issues seem to pale in comparison.

With a little effort, you can stay positive all the time and have a happier life.Do You want to Cultivate A Positive Attitude towards Life, No matter How bad the a Situations seems to be? There are so many hardships going on in the world today. Our economy is in the worst recession ever. Our dollar is losing it's value. More people are out of work than ever.

Be inspired,There are sure to be people who have experienced the same negative events or circumstances that you might have encountered. If you find your particular experiences hard to deal with, buy a book or audio cassette of someone who has walked in your shoes but overcome their problems. Realize there is always hope in any situation and be inspired to go beyond your circumstances.

Knock Out The Negative Noise.I had to keep telling myself that this was not the end. That this was NOT how my life was suppose to be. I had to knock out the negative noise that was in my head and focus on only the positive.Eventually things got a little better, then I got breast cancer. Talk about a blow to positive thinking! You start questioning yourself, "How can this be happening?" "Why Me?", "Is there any thing else you want to throw at me?"

I had to think long and hard about this one. What good would it be to become negative now? There really could be many more things that could go wrong. I learned to put a smile back on my face, be happy and stay positive no matter what. I beat that nasty old breast cancer, and my life is get better and better.A few tips on keeping that stiff upper lip and staying positive are:One: When something bad happens, take a deep breath, don't overreact and then think about what the worst outcome could be. Then think of the bright side of what happened. Believe it or not there always is a bright side, whether you think so at the time or not.

Remember: you get to choose the people in your life,We are not physically attached to every person we deal with day in and day out. It is okay to cut out anyone who brings absolutely no positive value to your life. Friends, family, coworkers, spouses- if they just don't want to be a part of your positive lifestyle, then it's okay to limit contact with them or do away with the relationship altogether. There is a whole world of people out there who can make you smile, so don't waste your happiness on those who don't want to share it.

What do you do to stay positive every day? Have you had to make some tough decisions about who stays and who goes? Let us know! The best way to secure future happiness is to be as happy as is rightfully possible today. Quote by, Charles W. Eliot,When life hands you a lemon, are you prepared to make lemonade? Try staying positive when everything around you is negative. It is essential for your health and well being. More importantly, the way you think, feel and act determines the outcome of your experience. So, why not make it a great experience by guiding your attitude toward one that is positive.

Five: Most of all stay away from negative people and situations. The last thing you need when you're feeling down is someone else that is down. Get around up beat happy people. What a difference it made having to go have radiation every day.It really can be hard staying positive in such a negative world. But, really open your eyes and your heart, there is a million to one in positive energy versus negative energy around you, if you let it in!




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