Friday, August 23, 2013

Communication Skills: Avoiding The Awkward Silence

By J. Ryu


You finally manage to approach a cute girl. Utilizing your awesome communication skills, you strike up a conversation without getting slapped or laughed away. The conversation with this cutie is going great. She's smiling, laughing, clearly becoming more interested and more attracted as you continue.

Then ... you get it: a brain fart, a blank mind, a loss for words. The only thing that matters is, it brings the conversation to a total halt and you can feel her attraction levels for you dropping faster than your ego. She looks at you with expectantly, then with disappointedly, then disinterestedly, then dismissively. Game over.

So whatever can you do to pull the conversational nose-dive back into the high flying interaction it was? You go into your tool kit. Your communication skills toolbox. You are about to learn one of the absolute best conversation-saving tools available. This is a guaranteed means to spare any conversation with a girl, PLUS it's so perfectly constructed, that it quickly allows sexual innuendo to creep into her mind "in the right place" while still being in the context of pure, non-needy and fun banter.

It's a little game I like to call "SMK" and it will be your new best friend. When you deploy the SMK game, any drooping conversation will instantly be turned around. You will leap beyond the average dork that approaches her with the same old boring pickup lines and dull conversations.

When you start to run out of things to talk about, when you can feel that her attraction is about to start dipping down ... You turn to her, and you say: "Hey, let's play a game real quick." Watch as her eyes glimmer with curiosity. This is definitely a departure from the typical night-time drivel she's accustomed to hearing. She will definitely invite you to continue.

Onwards the game. Start to glance around the room, assessing the various other guys you see and begin to point them out one at a time, and ask her "ok, so would you sleep with, marry, or kill him?" She'll laugh at first. Then she'll evaluate your target and size him up. Select different kinds of men representing the spectrum of character styles and stereotypes. A jock. A gangster. A nerd. A good-looking guy. An artist. A business man.

This will do a few things:

1) You will get an idea into exactly what she values in a man, and how she operates. She will provide really direct tips to how she wants to be seduced. If she says "sleep with" to the musician, "marry" to the nerdy man, and "kill" to the man in a suit ... then you can suspect that she's got a wild side, she does not like guys with a lot of structure, and she's a secret nerd. Think of that ... she'll essentially be giving you a HUGE hint into how you can seduce her.

2) You can continue bantering and teasing her. This is so vital to the first phase of the interaction with her. Keep conversation light, non-needy, (teasing her playfully) and fun! Make funny and silly projections about who you suspect she'd sleep with, marry and kill. It will be incredibly simple as she's alternating in between giggling at her own weird tastes, flinching at the dopey men, and changing to her ooh... voice with the guys that she finds sexy.

3) Which brings me to my next point...SHE WILL GET TURNED ON. Remember, you are asking her to bring the thought "who do I want to fuck?" into her mind, and all in the context of an experience that was generated by and shared with you...and only you.

4) Lastly ... she will see that you are 100 % confident in your sexuality and your potential to draw in women. You can confidently discuss the theoretical thought of her sleeping with various other men, which does not threaten you. 99.99% of men would be horrified to even imply that she even check out another man when he's speaking to her! Your self-confidence here will be very attractive to girls.

After playing this game for even a couple of minutes, she will be extremely turned on by your creativity, your wit, and your self-confidence ... This sets you up PERFECTLY to transition into the next stage of interaction, which builds upon the sexual energy in this game, especially if you have actually been correctly mixing in the right "sexual triggers" that all women have.




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